{"id":52,"date":"2015-02-09T10:30:12","date_gmt":"2015-02-09T10:30:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/?p=52"},"modified":"2018-03-25T20:38:36","modified_gmt":"2018-03-25T20:38:36","slug":"romancing-with-one-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/2015\/02\/09\/romancing-with-one-self\/","title":{"rendered":"Romancing with one-self"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cTo love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance\u201d\u00a0 Oscar Wilde<\/em><\/p>\n

The shops are full of valentine messages and a postcard has hit the mat informing me that I could demonstrate my love by sending flowers.\u00a0 As February rolls round and the message I keep hearing is \u201clove\u201d I am reminded that if I have no love or appreciation for myself, then how can I possibly love anyone else in my life right now?\u00a0 I\u2019m talking about a love that offers kindness to our selves whatever situations are playing out in our lives.<\/p>\n

Self-talk<\/h3>\n

As you walk around today, listen to your inner self-talk.\u00a0 Often the harshest critic is the one sitting in our minds.\u00a0 I call my inner critic \u2018Sydney\u2019, and she is very good at telling me \u201cYou are not good enough\u201d, \u201cYou should have completed more\u201d or, \u201cYou ought to have tried harder\u201d.<\/p>\n

When Sydney goes off on an inner rant I often thank her for sharing and then I explore how I might be feeling in the moment I started criticising myself.\u00a0 Am I feeling frightened, overwhelmed or even scared?\u00a0 Listening to our inner critic can tell us much about how we are feeling.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0Often the answer is quite surprising and gives us a clue as to why we\u2019ve been criticising or judging ourselves so harshly.<\/p>\n

Self-discovery<\/h3>\n

When you begin to uncover the feelings associated with the internal rant, some compassion and acceptance often appears and this can enable you to speak some inner words of kindness to the part that is hurting.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0Often asking yourself how you would speak to a friend who was feeling scared or overwhelmed, helps us to connect compassionately with ourselves.\u00a0 \u00a0Ironically we often have better relationships with our friends than we do with ourselves.\u00a0 As Louise Hay says \u201cYou have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn\u2019t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Self-love<\/h3>\n

When I\u2019m being kinder to myself I feel compassion, warmth and a connection with the world and this helps my heart to open and for me to love others.\u00a0 Why not give it a try?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cTo love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance\u201d\u00a0 Oscar Wilde The shops are full of valentine messages and a postcard has hit the mat informing me that I could demonstrate my love by sending flowers.\u00a0 As February rolls round and the message I keep hearing is \u201clove\u201d I am reminded that if I … Continue reading “Romancing with one-self”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=52"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":53,"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52\/revisions\/53"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=52"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=52"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sueholdsworth.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=52"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}